Now I understand why it had to happen

I would like to tell a story about my life in South Africa, the story is about a young man who grew up in a small village, by a single mother who had to endure a lot of stress, trials and tribulation. In the midst of all the stresses and the going up and down of life, with two kids to raise, with a condition of High Blood pressure, sugar diabetes, she fought to keep her kids happy and in the process made them stronger, although it was hard for them, they had to grow up quickly and in the process giving up a lot of privileges.

Today they are all grown, even though they still experience the pain and the hurt they had to go through, they do understand that other things have a reason why they happen, they know that if they hadn’t gone through other things, life wouldn’t be the same for them.

Now I understand why it had to happen

Copyright © 2012 by Patrick Neo Mabiletsa.

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Chapter 1

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Chapter 1

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t was in the early hours of the morning in Jericho just 30 minutes

away from a small town of Brits. It was the

Wednesday of June 10th

in 1981. The winter sun was just about to come out. The grass was

wet from the evening cold and the skies were blue and clear; it was indeed

going to be a very beautiful day. Everything seemed to be into place, even

the weather. The small mid-winter winds, the blue skies, the shining sun

and even the cold was just above average that morning.

There was a young and beautiful woman with a gaze so beautiful, you could

get lost in her eyes as she stared at you. You could feel the love and the

warmth of her love. She had an almost sharp nose as if she was western. A

nice tiny body, with long ostrich like legs and the most beautiful smile with

a bit of a loud laughter. As she walked, you would think of the queen of

Sheba. This was a woman of dreams, purpose, integrity and self-respect.

When she spoke, her soft voice would give any child sanity and certainty.

When she laughed, you felt the goodness of her contagious graceful spirit

and you will feel her warmth and her kindness.

A few hours after staring at the beautiful sky and weather, Louisa stood there

and started thinking about her life. Having bad and beautiful thoughts, she

started having pains in her stomach. “O” my God, I think it’s time,” said

Louisa.

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She was pregnant and it was time to give birth. It had been a long time

coming. The whole nine months, she stood outside under the paw-paw

tree thinking about her problems and solutions. She has been down and

under with getting sick and running to the clinic. When the day of giving

birth arrived, you could see the relief in her eyes. She has been under a lot

of stress without the support of a husband. Louisa already had two other

children. Sadly she lost her little girl Lorraine, a few years before her son

Thabo was born.

By Thabo being the oldest, he felt the need to take over the headship of the

family in the absence of a father. Thabo is dark, strong willed, with a very

strong character. A boy who had to grow up fast and make sure the family

is taken care of and protected.

There was still a lot of history for Louisa to forget and get over in such a

short space of time. Life has not been easy for her with work and taking

care of the children. It has been a year of shame, disappointment, hurt

and difficulties, but the lord was able to see her through all the adversities.

(Louisa’s strength).

What do you do when you feel that you have been disappointed enough in

your life and there is no one to turn to? Life was difficult enough for her.

She sometimes felt she could not move on, unless she found someone to

help her. She tried to be strong at times but it was just too much. What can

she really do when she felt no one cared what happens? What to do when

the last hope of surviving is taken away from you?

Louisa had two sisters, an older sister and a younger sister. She also had four

brothers, who were sometimes abusive to her. However, the faith inside of

her was able to get her through those tough times and she became the most

remarkable mother to two remarkable young men.

The time had arrived for Louisa to give birth to her third child and it was

an emergency! “Please someone call the car and take me to the hospital,”

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Louisa screamed. However, there was no car at that time and she had

to wait in pain for two more hours. She screamed repeatedly to the top

of her lungs. In results she starts to enjoy the fact that this was the end

of something painful and the beginning of something new. It was that

moment when Louisa realized, she had to change the way she speaks and

the way she thinks. It was time to speak and think nothing but good things.

Love was in the air for her.

It was around 7:00am on that Wednesday of June 10th, when the car finally

arrived. Louisa was then swiftly taken to the hospital. Around 10:00am,

she gave birth to a beautiful boy, it was now time for her to rejoice and

be glad. However, the thoughts of raising another child alone would not

leave her mind. She kept thinking of ways to provide. There was only one

solution for her, to go back to work and leave the child at home with her

sister.

Louisa took her child into her hands and smiled, she knew that this child

was a gift from God. Hence, she gave him the name Neo, which means,

“Gift.” Holding him in her hands was the most beautiful and peaceful thing

that has ever to happen to her. She was at ease and forgot her problems, for

a while. And that was when I was born.